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![Some feelings are just harder to sit with - especially anxiety. And when it shows up in our kids? It’s so natural to want to make it go away. To fix it.
But I’ve been seeing (and maybe you have too) that when we rush in to soothe, we might be sending a message we never meant to: “You can’t handle this.” And over time, kids start to believe it.
What if we tried something different?What if we stopped trying to “solve” anxiety, and started helping our kids feel capable in the face of it?
That’s what the Anxiety Program inside the Good Inside app is all about. It’s a new way to see what’s happening and how to intervene to see progress in your kid. If this feels like something you want in your toolbox, it’s waiting for you.]()
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2025-09-10 01:20:03
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![My favorite underrated relationship strategy? Doing nothing.
This past week, in honor of National Grandparents Day today, I filmed a podcast episode all about navigating the parent-grandparent dynamics of family. It’s such an important episode and I hope you’ll give it a listen. Available wherever you stream your podcasts.
And to all of the grandparents seeing this, Happy Grandparents Day!]()
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2025-09-07 18:30:00
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![So much of parenting is inconvenient. And when our kids whine, it’s easy to think we’re giving in to make them happy but often, we’re just trying to stop feeling frustrated ourselves. The problem? If we can’t tolerate our kids’ frustration, they can’t learn to tolerate it either. That’s how their emotions end up in the driver’s seat.
This clip is from my conversation with jayshetty on his podcast and it's one I really enjoyed. Find it wherever you stream your podcasts!]()
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2025-09-06 17:33:18
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![Want to hear more on holding boundaries with family members? Listen to the most recent episode of the Good Inside podcast, “Navigating the Parent-Grandparent Dynamic” wherever you stream your podcasts!]()
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2025-09-05 01:46:26
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![My kids are bored? I’m crushing it.
How will you encourage boredom in your home this weekend?]()
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2025-09-05 01:39:44
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![Our kids are always watching, listening, noticing. Even when we don’t talk about the hard stuff, they still feel it. When we avoid the tough conversations, we don’t actually protect them - we leave them alone with uncertainty and no roadmap. And when that happens, kids can start to doubt themselves and their instincts.
Talking openly about what’s going on, even in simple age-appropriate ways, builds trust: trust in us, and most importantly, trust in themselves. The message becomes: “You can handle this. Your feelings make sense. You can trust what you notice inside of you.” That’s how resilience begins.
In my most recent episode of the Good Inside podcast I talk all about navigating the parent-grandparent dynamic. I answer some questions from both parents and grandparents and highlight the messy and necessary reality of building strong, emotionally healthy families across generations. I hope you’ll give it a listen. Available wherever you stream your podcasts!]()
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2025-09-04 01:52:26
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![We want leaders who stay sturdy when things get tough.
Leaders who recognize feelings without being ruled by them. A sturdy leader can say: “You’re allowed to be upset. I’m still here, steady.”
Our kids crave this sturdy leadership. It’s what helps them feel safe, find calm, and build resilience. We are the pilots of our families - our kids look to us for love and leadership.
If that feels overwhelming, ground yourself: feet on the floor, hand on your heart, deep breath. You have Pilot 3 in you. We all do. And yes, we all have moments where fear and old wounds drown that sturdiness out. That’s not your fault.
The real work is asking: “What do I want to build so I feel sturdier - for my kids, and for myself?” There’s nothing wrong with working on yourself. In fact, that’s the strongest identity of all.
And we don’t have to do it alone. The more of us who show up together, the stronger this movement becomes. Tag a friend, a partner, a family member who you see as your sturdy co-pilot. We all need one.]()
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2025-09-01 20:46:05
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![For many of us when we were younger, anger wasn’t safe. A slammed door meant punishment, disrespect, being a “bad kid.”
It makes sense that when our kids slam doors, our nervous systems react before our values do.
Here’s the reframe: a slammed door isn’t disrespect. It’s overwhelm. It’s sensitivity. It’s a child holding too much and not knowing where to put it.
When we pause, breathe, and move toward our kids with steadiness instead of punishment, we don’t just handle *this* moment differently. We start to rewrite the story - for them and for us.
That discomfort you feel? It’s not a sign you’re doing something wrong. It’s proof you’re doing something new.]()
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2025-08-31 16:50:03
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![We want our kids to lie.
Yes, really. Because lying when they’re young means we still have a chance to intervene - before they grow into teenagers and adults who feel they have to hide the truth from us.
When a child lies, it’s not a sign they’re “bad” or “sneaky.” It’s a sign they’re protecting something even more important than honesty: attachment. Kids lie to avoid the disconnection they fear will come from our anger, punishment, or judgment.
That means every little lie is also an opportunity. An opportunity to show: The truth doesn’t push me away. The truth brings me closer.
When we respond with curiosity and connection instead of rage or shame, we teach our kids that honesty is safe. And then, over time, they won’t need lying to protect them.]()
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2025-08-30 19:38:13
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![We want our kids to be able to trust their feelings, to be able to assert themselves, to be able to set boundaries around their bodies, especially when it comes to touch.
Here’s the thing: these skills don’t suddenly appear later in life, they’re built in early childhood.
If you want your child to say, “No, I’m not comfortable with that” years from now, they need practice saying it today.
Adults may push back: “What? No hug?” or “Come on, just sit on my lap!” Deep breath. That’s ok. It’s not your child’s job to make others happy - especially at the cost of their own comfort. And it’s not your job to please those adults either.
This is tough cycle-breaking work. And you’re tough enough to do it.
So when the criticism comes, picture me by your side whispering: “You’re safe. This isn’t an emergency. You don’t have anything to prove. You’re the right parent for your kid and you know what you’re doing.”
Let’s help our kids build self-trust today, so they can assert themselves when they’re older.]()
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2025-08-29 18:43:53
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![Sometimes a child’s “big reaction” feels out of proportion. They lose a game and say, “I’m never playing again!” They get left out and shout, “No one likes me!” They hear “no” to ice cream for breakfast and wail, “This is the worst day ever!”
It’s easy to wonder: does this really matter? It’s not like our kid will be playing soccer forever, or really need to have ice cream for breakfast. My honest answer? Yes, how they tolerate these situations does matter. It actually matters a lot.
In these everyday disappointments, kids are learning skills they’ll carry forever. How to tolerate frustration. How to recover from loss. How to stay calm even when something feels unfair.
The specific situations - board games, sports, playdates, snacks - will change. But the skills stay the same. And the more practice they get now, with our support, the stronger those skills grow.
And here’s the important part: kids don’t simply outgrow these struggles. The feelings don’t disappear with age, and the skills to manage them aren’t magically gifted with age either. That’s why it matters to practice now, with our support.
And if you’re not sure how to help? That’s okay. None of us are born knowing how to do this - and that’s exactly the work we love guiding parents through.]()
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2025-08-27 22:17:06
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![Talking about our triggers with our kids takes away their power. It also helps us take small, meaningful steps toward staying calm and connected - and that's so important.
This week on the Good Inside podcast we're sharing something usually reserved just for Good Inside Members - a live Q&A where I chat with Senior Good Inside Coach, Jamie Pfeffer. This is such a good episode, I hope you'll tune in. Available wherever you stream (And to watch on YouTube!)]()
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2025-08-27 04:33:11
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![It’s Monday… I think we could all use a laugh. 😂 Has your kid ever asked you a question you didn’t know how to answer? Let me know in the comments.]()
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2025-08-25 22:23:54
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![We don’t need to optimize every moment of our kids’ lives for their pleasure. Sometimes, it’s actually good for kids to be bored, to do something they don’t enjoy, or to show up for a sibling even when they’d rather be somewhere else.
These are the moments that build empathy, patience, and resilience - the skills that make us good humans. And yes, they’ll whine. And that’s okay.
This was such an amazing conversation with jayshetty on his podcast, I hope you'll listen to the full episode out now.]()
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2025-08-24 18:33:18
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![We talk about “self-care” like it’s a luxury. A bubble bath. A splurge. A “someday” thing.
But here’s the truth: if your “self” cup is empty, every other part of your life feels harder. You get reactive. Snappy. Resentful. You wake up already tired. Your body whispers it’s run down and sometimes, you just snap.
The problem? Most of us have trained ourselves to keep pouring into the same cups: work, kids, partner, household… while ignoring the one cup that keeps all the others full - ourselves.
Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s self-sustaining. It’s what allows you to show up with patience for your kids, energy for your partner, creativity for your work.
If self-care feels uncomfortable, that’s not a sign you’re doing something wrong, it’s a sign you’re doing something new. And something new might be exactly what we need to try.]()
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2025-08-23 03:33:14
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![So many parents tell me, “I want to play with my kid, I know it matters… but I just feel awkward. Is something wrong with me?”
Here’s what I want you to know: That awkwardness? It’s not a flaw. It’s a story - a story from your past, from a time when play wasn’t safe or welcomed or valued. You weren’t born uncomfortable with play… you adapted to your environment. And that adaptation helped you back then.
So what do we do now? Start small. Place your hand on your heart and say, “Thank you, part of me that shut down play. You helped me once. And now I want to do something different.”
That’s not just parenting. That’s cycle-breaking.]()
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![So many parents tell me, “I feel guilty leaving my kids to go out with friends,” or “I feel guilty taking time for me.”
When really, most of the time, that feeling isn’t actually guilt.
Guilt is what shows up when we act out of alignment with our values. It’s uncomfortable and it’s supposed to be. It’s a signal that helps us reflect, repair, and realign.
But going out with friends when connection and self-care are part of your value system? That’s not guilt. That’s your child’s discomfort showing up and you taking it on as your own.
We’ve been conditioned (especially us women!) to scan our environment for other people’s feelings. To absorb them. To hold them in our bodies. And then to call it guilt.
That’s not guilt. That’s emotional confusion.
So the next time you think, “I feel so guilty,” pause and ask: Is this truly guilt, or am I just picking up on someone else’s discomfort?
Naming the difference matters - it keeps us grounded in our own values while staying present with our kids’ feelings.]()
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![What should we do when our child wakes up and proclaims, “I’m NOT going to school!”
What does our kid need from us to get less “stuck” and insistent on this NO?
Check out this reel for what we can do in these moments to reduce resistance and increase cooperation.
📚️Are your kids struggling with the transition back to school after holiday break? I’ve been there, and, if you’re looking for more support to handle these tricky moments, I've got you covered.
Listen to the most recent episode of the Good Inside podcast where I unpack why starting school is more than just a change in schedule - and how to stay sturdy during the turbulence of transitions. Available wherever you stream your podcasts!]()
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![Is it just me, or does August feel like one long transition?! Summer ending, routines shifting, new beginnings on the horizon - it can be a lot.
If you’re feeling it hit harder than expected, you’re not alone. Transitions, even good ones, stir up so much stress for our kids and for us.
I’m curious, what transition has been hitting hard for you lately? Let me know in the comments!]()
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![Ever pick up your kid for carpool and ask, “How was your day?” only to get nothing but a “fine”? Same. You’re not alone. I’ve been there many times.
So I asked parents what their biggest carpool struggles are, and put together a new Carpool Q+A with Chomps to help turn those on-the-go moments into chances for connection. Because carpool doesn’t just have to be about getting from point A to point B – it can be a moment for both of you. Head to the link in my bio to watch now! #ChompsPartner]()
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![Every parent hits turbulence. Bedtime battles, snack negotiations, meltdowns over screens - those bumps in the air can feel loud, messy, and exhausting.
I want you to know that turbulence doesn’t mean you’ve lost control of the flight. Your child might shout from the back of the plane, but deep down, they feel safest knowing you’re steady at the controls.
Confidence in turbulence sounds like: “I know this is hard. And I’ve still got us.”
So the next time the ride gets bumpy, remember - you’re the pilot of your family’s plane. Hold steady, keep your hands on the controls, and trust yourself. Picture me, right there in the co-pilot seat, cheering you on. ✈️]()
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![Let’s talk about SEX.
We are raising our kids in the information age.
We want our kids to learn about their bodies, private parts, about how babies are made *from us* in the context of a safe loving relationship… not from peers on the bus or the internet.
This is also true: So many of US struggle with the idea of having these conversations with our kids - and that makes sense.
While many of us want to talk openly with our kids, few of us had honest conversations about these topics when we were younger. It’s normal to feel stuck or awkward!
If you don't have an answer for your kid right away, that's okay. Don't be afraid to find a trusted resource and share your answer with your kid later.
Now I'm curious… how did *you* learn about these topics when you were younger?]()
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![71% of parents say their kids are less imaginative than they used to be. That number doesn’t surprise me and it does concern me.
We live in a world where wonder is getting crowded out. Constant stimulation, quick fixes, endless entertainment… it leaves little space for the most powerful force in childhood: boredom.
Boredom isn’t a problem to solve. It’s a portal. It’s the place where creativity begins and imagination wakes up. Where a kid starts to think: “I wonder what I could do… I wonder what I could build… I wonder what else is possible.”
Want to raise imaginative kids? We don’t need more toys. We need more space. More slowness. More “nothing to do.” Let’s stop filling every moment. Let’s start protecting wonder with boredom.
Want to hear more of my thoughts on this? Tune into the Good Inside podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts.]()
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![Back-to-school season isn’t just a big deal for our kids - it’s a lot for us, too.
There’s the new teachers and schedules and carpools and all of the new worries swirling in our heads. And if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed with back-to-school it make sense your feeling this way and you’re not alone.
Yes, transitions stir up hard emotions for everyone and it is not our job to make our kids happy all the time. (A real Two Things Are True moment!) We can be a sturdy leader for kids in this moment by validating their feelings and letting them know we believe they are capable to handle whatever the school year throws their way.
So this week, try one simple thing: talk to your child about the transition. Naming it doesn’t make it worse. It makes it easier. We’ve got this.]()
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